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NEGATIVE SELF-TALK IS SABOTAGING YOUR SUCCESS

March 17, 2025

Negative self-talk is one of the biggest hidden obstacles holding business leaders, sales  professionals, and entrepreneurs back from success. 

Have you ever found yourself overwhelmed by a constant stream of self-doubt, criticism, or  fear? I've been there. In fact, I used to be the queen of negative self-talk. I would constantly  be my own worst critic, doubting my abilities and letting those negative thoughts run wild. But  here's the truth: we are wired to be attracted to the negative. 

Statistics show that 90% of our thoughts are negative on any given day. That's a staggering  number, right? But it doesn't have to be this way. We don't have to let that negativity define us or  dictate our actions. It's time to stop the negative talk and start taking control of our minds. 

 

Why Negative Self-Talk is Holding Back Your Sales & Business Growth 

Our brains are hardwired for survival, and that means they often focus on what could go wrong,  the dangers, and potential threats. This instinct was useful for our ancestors, who needed to be  alert to survive. However, in the world we live in today, those same instincts can cause  unnecessary stress, self-doubt, and a constant barrage of negativity. 

We naturally gravitate toward negative thoughts because our brains are conditioned to protect  us, but we have the power to choose how we respond. Negative thoughts don't have to  control us. 

Stop the Negative Talk: Muzzle Your Monkey 

I want to challenge you to muzzle your monkey—the inner critic that stops you from  negotiating confidently, asking for what you're worth, or stepping up as a leader. I've struggled  with this for a long time, but I've learned that we have the power to quiet that voice, shift our  mindset, and change the narrative. 

Next time you catch yourself in a cycle of negative thoughts, ask yourself: 

  • "Is there any merit to these thoughts?" 
  • "Am I focusing on facts or just creating stories in my mind?" 
  • "What is the truth here, not just the narrative my brain is telling me?" 

We all need to be more conscious of the negative thoughts we entertain. It's not always easy,  but acknowledging them is the first step toward change. You are not alone in this struggle— we all have moments of self-doubt and negative thinking, but it's time to stop being our own  worst critic and start becoming our biggest encourager. 

The Power of Encouragement

We spend so much time listening to the voice of negativity in our minds, but what if we spent  more time encouraging ourselves? Imagine if we spoke to ourselves with the same kindness  and support that we give to others: 

  • "You are capable." 
  • "You are enough." 
  • "You are worthy of success." 

Instead of tearing yourself down, start practicing positive self-talk. When those negative  thoughts creep in, counter them with affirmations that are rooted in truth. When you start to  muzzle the monkey, you'll create space for encouragement, growth, and self-love. 

A Simple Practice to Quiet the Monkey 

When you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts, try this simple exercise: 

  1. Pause and Breathe: Take a moment to breathe deeply and center yourself. 2. Ask Yourself: Are these thoughts rooted in reality, or are they just your monkey mind  creating fear and doubt? 
  2. Counter the Negativity: Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations. For  example, if you think, "I'm not good enough," replace it with, "I am more than capable of  succeeding." 
  3. Choose to Let It Go: Once you've acknowledged the negative thought, choose to let it  go and move forward. 

You Are Not Alone 

We all have negative thoughts from time to time. It's normal. But the key is not letting those  thoughts control you. The more you practice muzzling your monkey, the more you'll notice  how much control you have over your own mind. 

If you need extra help with managing negative self-talk, be sure to check out our new podcast,  That Sh*t Doesn't Define You, where we will dive deep into how to quiet those negative voices  and take control of your mindset. 

TUNE IN TO 'THAT SH*T DOESN'T DEFINE YOU'

Together, we can take back our power, stop the cycle of negative talk, and start encouraging  ourselves to reach our fullest potential. You are worthy. You are capable. And you don't have  to be your own worst critic anymore.