Have you ever walked into a room and thought, I don't belong here? Or felt that creeping fear that any moment, someone will find out that you're not as capable or qualified as they think? That's imposter syndrome—the feeling that you're a fraud, even when everything on the outside shows that you're succeeding.
If you've experienced this, I want to reassure you: You are not alone. Imposter syndrome is more common than you might think—even among high-achievers like entrepreneurs, leaders, and CEOs.
Before you dive in, if you haven't listened to our episode on imposter syndrome with Kyle Draper, I encourage you to do so before reading this blog!
In this blog, we're exploring the science behind imposter syndrome, why it holds us back, and, most importantly, how you can overcome it. Let's examine the actionable steps that will help you break free from this self-doubt and start embracing your success with authentic confidence.
What Is Imposter Syndrome?
Imposter syndrome is the internalized belief that your achievements are due to luck, timing, or other external factors—not your talent or effort. It makes you feel like you're "faking it" and that, at any moment, someone will expose you as a fraud. This syndrome thrives in silence, often leaving us feeling isolated and unworthy of our successes.
Research from Dr. Pauline Clance and Dr. Suzanne Imes in 1978 shows that over 70% of people experience imposter syndrome at some point in their lives, especially high achievers. Imposter syndrome affects success, but it doesn't stop it—those who experience it often work harder, over-prepare, and over-perform to compensate for their perceived inadequacy, which can lead to burnout and exhaustion.
The Brain Science Behind Imposter Syndrome
Our amygdala (the brain's fear center) goes into overdrive when we feel self-doubt. It triggers a fight-or-flight response, making those feelings of being a fraud feel overwhelming. The more we feed into these negative thoughts, the stronger they become, reinforcing a cycle of self-doubt.
But here's the good news: Neuroplasticity allows us to rewire these thought patterns. In simple terms, this means that our brains can change, and we have the power to challenge and replace the negative beliefs that feed into imposter syndrome.
Rubber Meets the Road: Actionable Steps to Overcome Imposter Syndrome
Start a "Proof Journal"
The key to combating imposter syndrome is to reframe self-doubt. A proof journal allows you to track your successes, no matter how small. When self-doubt creeps in, look back at your proof journal to remind yourself of your achievements and the value you bring to the table.
Action: Every day or week, write down 2-3 wins. These could be completing a project, receiving a compliment, or taking a courageous step forward. Reflect on why each win matters and what it says about your skills.
Use the "What Would You Say to a Friend?" Strategy
We are often kinder to others than we are to ourselves. Try writing down your negative thoughts next time you are spiraling in self-doubt. Then, imagine your best friend said the same thing to you. What would you say to them?
Action: Write that response to yourself. Remind yourself of your strengths, resilience, and the evidence you belong. Be your own best friend.
Take Imperfect Action
Imposter syndrome loves to paralyze us, keeping us from taking action. But even imperfect action proves to your brain that you're capable. The more you take steps forward, the more you realize that you belong and that your efforts matter.
Action: Identify one area where self-doubt is holding you back—whether it's speaking up in a meeting, applying for a promotion, or sharing a project idea. Take one small, imperfect action today, and reflect on what you learned. The more you do this, the less power imposter syndrome will have.
What Imposter Syndrome Really Means (and Why It Shows Up)
Imposter syndrome doesn't mean you're unqualified—it means you care deeply about what you're doing. It's a sign that you're pushing yourself into new territory, taking on new challenges, and growing. Acknowledging, sharing, and realizing you're not alone are the keys to overcoming it.
When we look at the big picture, achieving more won't silence imposter syndrome. As you push yourself to higher levels of success, imposter syndrome might intensify. But by embracing it, sharing it with others, and focusing on your accomplishments, you'll build authentic, lasting confidence.
You're Not Alone: Kyle Draper's Story of Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
On That Sh*t Doesn't Define You, we talked with Kyle Draper about his journey with imposter syndrome. He shared powerful insights on challenging the inner critic, silencing self-doubt, and moving forward confidently.
If you're struggling with imposter syndrome or feeling like you don't belong, I encourage you to listen to this episode. Kyle's story will inspire you to push through your doubts and believe in yourself.
Take One Step Toward the Life You Deserve
Imposter syndrome doesn't have to define you. You are capable. You belong. And it's time to take action and move forward with confidence. Start by acknowledging the thoughts that have been holding you back, then use the strategies shared here to challenge them and rewrite your story.
You've got this—now let's break free from imposter syndrome and start living the confident life you deserve.